All parents want their teens to use their screen time wisely. In reality though, parents need to be partners in their kids' digital content consumption too - and not just around time limits.

“Smartphones are a third arm to many tweens and teens — it’s their whole lives,” says Pamela Hurst-Della Pietra, founder and president of Children and Screens: Institute of Digital Media and Child Development, a nonprofit organization focused on the impact of digital media on children.

Nearly 60% of teens worry about how much time they spend online, according to the Pew Research Center. Yet teens also point to a lot of positive outcomes from using social media and online platforms such as stronger friendships, learning about new ideas, and opinions, and the ability to support each other.

Still, limits are essential. With the right tools and approach, parents can be less their kids' digital gatekeepers, and more their digital partners.

Why set limits?

In 2018, The American Academy of Pediatrics changed their guidelines: No more than one hour of screen time for children ages 2 to 5; and for children and teens, there’s no specific limit set, other than a caution against “too much.”

Neuroscientists argue that with too many hours of exposure, the so-called blue light emanating from digital devices can impact sleep patterns. Teens who spend significantly more than two hours per day glued to their screens are also at greater risk to suffer symptoms related to depression, compared to teens who get at least one hour of daily outdoor activity, according to the Journal of Mental Health and Activity.

Other studies indicate too much screen time can influence the depth and quality of teens’ personal relationships. “Many parents struggle with suddenly non-verbal children who seem to be distracted and not paying attention,” notes Hurst Della-Pietra. “They’re alarmed because when they were that age, they spent hours talking on the phone with their friends. Today’s kids text and interact over social media.”

Before cracking down on their kids' device usage, however, parents have to take a look in the mirror, according to Dr. Tom Brunner, a child psychologist and behavioral scientist. "Kids learn through modeling," he says. "You can't say to your kids, 'Don't do this,' when you regularly do it. Parents must model incredible restraint-not easy to do when the boss is texting you at dinnertime."

The screen contract.

Luckily, parents can lean on some innovative digital tools to help them manage their kids’ screen time. Parental-control apps prevent kids from texting with strangers and accessing inappropriate content. Meantime, filters can be adjusted based on what parents consider age-appropriate for their kids.

Older teenagers, however, are likely to rebel against these kind of controls, viewing them as unwelcome interference. To combat this, both Dr. Brunner and Hurst Della-Pietra recommend creating a media contract with teens, outlining acceptable device usage and online behaviors.

"The contract should be specific and granular, laying out the ground rules for the kids' screen time," says Dr. Brunner. "For instance, my contract with our children (ages 10 and 12) stipulates absolutely no technology use at the dinner table, when we eat out together as a family, and when we're in the car."

While there may be more room for negotiation with teens, the document should still be considered the "source of truth." Teens must know that it's in their best interest to limit their screen time - for all the mentioned health and wellness benefits.

Dr. Brunner also says consequences should be clear to children who break the rules. "Give them a specific list of chores that they can choose from if they break the contract, such as doing the laundry, mowing the lawn or doing the dishes," he says. "Three evenings in a row washing the dishes can do wonders."

Talking it out.

Though Dr. Brunner sees a time when devices will automatically address screen-time limits on different devices to children at different ages, today’s parents are in “uncharted territory.”

"We're the first generation to have young kids with smartphones in their hands," he says. "We're all worried about our children losing sense of how to socially interact and are concerned about the neurological impact of too much exposure."

That makes it doubly important for parents to have an honest talk with their teens about what they use their devices for. Do they really need to spend that much time playing a game? Would their online time be better spent reading an article about something that interests them?

"My best advice is time-tested: Talk to your kids about their screen time and your concerns," Dr. Brunner says. "Establish daily periods of 1-on-1 time to sit down and have truly meaningful conversations, where they become the most important thing in your world, and they know it."

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As you teach your kids that "what goes online stays online," you should also think about what you share as a parent. Could the countless baby pictures or anecdotes about your teen's friendship dramas or bad grades in math embarrass them in the future? Would you be upset if they posted the same information about themselves or their siblings? Who exactly can see your updates, photos or videos?

The Family Online Safety Institute (FOSI) wanted to learn more about whether parents are oversharing—or “sharenting”—and conducted a study with Hart Research Associates on “Parents, Privacy and Technology Use” to examine how parents model technology habits for their kids. In these focus groups, many parents shared that they posted updates, photos, and even the school’s name and location as their kids headed back to school. When asked to reflect more about what they post or their friends post about their kids, some parents started to share examples of over-the-top updates and other parents posting personal information about their families.

Most parents surveyed gave themselves an A or B when asked to grade how they are doing at setting a good example for online behavior, but other parents overshared information and had embarrassed their kids. Some found themselves spending too much time on devices or sometimes just couldn't set restrictions on time or use of technology. Because they were busy, letting their kids online meant getting a few quiet minutes or hours to get other things done at home.

A few parents reported how much they liked sharing updates about their kids' accomplishments because social media allowed them to publicly express their pride. One parent really wanted to share videos of her daughter's singing but stopped herself because she thought about the potential mean comments that might occur from a public post.

Are parents’ social posts embarrassing?

According to the study, one in five parents (19%) posted something online that their child may find embarrassing in the future and 10% have said their child asked them to take down something they posted online. Luckily, only 7% said they posted something negative or critical about their child, such as bad behavior.

Parents are understandably excited when wanting to share life’s milestones, accomplishments, and their child’s development with friends and family, but a quick pause to think through what you are sharing and with whom can help minimize the risk of “sharenting.”

6 things to consider before posting

Whether its venting about behavior, sharing anecdotes on a school issue or posting a silly video of your child, take a moment to reflect on whether the content would upset your kid or if it contains too much private information. Some key questions to think about before posting:

1. Have I updated or checked my privacy settings lately?
2. Is this information public and should I worry about someone else sharing it?
3. Should I limit the audience to family or close friends?
4. Am I sharing information such as my child’s date of birth, school address, location details or other personal info? 
5. Would my child be upset if someone came across this post when they are older?
6. Is this story better told in person or via text message to a small group?

Obtén más información sobre cómo how to manage privacy settings on the top social apps. There are a lot of ways to limit who can see what on social media, so you can restrict what you are sharing to particular groups of friends or just your immediate family.

Ask the expert: your teen

FOSI's research found that 39% of parents learned something about using social media from their child and parents of teens are most likely to acknowledge learning something about technology from their child. If you ask them to help you with your privacy settings and ask about what content they consider "sharenting," it can help you rethink your own behavior. These conversations have an added bonus of revealing what your child already knows about privacy and if they are thinking about their own digital footprint.

Use screens together

The study found that the parents who often use technology side-by-side with their child are more confident about managing their child’s technology use—so take some time to learn and explore sites and post social updates together.

Let's face it: Parents will always embarrass their kids-Dad trying Fortnite moves at the school dance is always a hit. But, with a little communication and understanding, we can minimize social "sharenting."

FOSI’s research project was made possible by a grant from the Digital Trust Foundation.

This article was authored by staff at the Family Online Safety Institute, a nonprofit organization that works to empower parents to confidently navigate the digital world with their kids. It was originally posted on their Good Digital Parenting blog and republished here with permission.

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When your teen is ready for the world of online sharing is up to you and your family. But, the conversation about the kind of person they want to be-in real time and online-should be early and ongoing. For most parents, it would be horrifying to find explicit or offensive content on their child's public page or profile for everyone to see. A parent wants what's best for their child, and surely, they want their kids to personify the values they've imparted on them.

But, mistakes happen, and adults, children and teenagers sometimes post certain information that should otherwise not be public. If your child decides that their post does not represent them anymore, they can delete the post. Unfortunately, anything that goes online will stay online, even after being deleted. The "privacy settings" and other tools that make users feel more at ease when deciding to share information only grant us a false sense of security. Smart phones and other digital tools were not necessarily designed with privacy in mind. Even if your child or teen takes extra precaution when sharing information that he or she thinks is private, their information could always leak. That is because, whether publicly or privately, information shared over digital means will always have a way to become widely accessible. After all, a screenshot can be taken, phones can be stolen and passwords can be hacked.

What kind of person do you want to be?

If the question sounds heavy, it is. For starters, this conversation can help strengthen the parent-child bond as they discuss the makings of their identity. For any developing mind, understanding who they are can be a contentious and challenging question. But frequent conversations initiated by those who we love and support the most is a way to help young people answer questions about who they are and what they stand for.

Try this:

When possible, speak from your own experience when you were a teen. When did you start thinking about who you wanted to be and what you believe in? How did you go about becoming that person? Teens are more responsive when you talk from your own experience and memories.

Before you post, do you think about who’s going to see it?

Because our digital presence becomes an extension of our identity, children should become aware that their online actions have consequences. Online activity can have a malicious effect when the person behind an aggressive Tweet or comment feels physically distant from the recipient. Children should realize how their digital messages could be perceived and interpreted by a wider audience.

Try this:

This is an opportunity for parents to teach their children how living out their values and ethics also extends to their online behavior. When did you need to stop yourself from sending an angry or impulsive message? Or have you ever over-shared something you didn't want to work colleagues to see? What was the outcome and what did you learn? 

Remember to tell kids to pause before they post.

Could it help or hurt your ability to reach your goals?

A positive online reputation is now an integral part of achieving many goals in a young person's life. More than two-thirds of colleges (68%) say it's "fair game" to check an applicant's social media accounts, according to a Kaplan Survey.

Talking about the impact and the technological tools that children have at their disposal can be what makes a difference in the long run. As children try out for a team, a play or especially when applying for college, they should be aware of how their digital representation lines up with their goals.

Try this:

Lend a guiding hand when talking about what your child envisions for her or his future. If your child's online image doesn't line up with who they want to become, help them understand why it's hurtful, or why that picture or post may inaccurately reflect them for years to come. Help them understand that with tremendous connectivity and information comes big responsibility.

Let them know it’s okay to make mistakes as long as they are learning from them along the way.

When your child gets a mobile device and at what age is between you and your child, but a conversation like this should be early and ongoing. The conversations between parents and teenagers surrounding the pitfalls of online activity are as important as any other educational conversation you will have with them. The same great parenting rule remains: Be the person your child can talk-or text-to about anything. When it comes to sharing online, character still counts.

This article was authored by staff at the Family Online Safety Institute, a nonprofit organization that works to empower parents to confidently navigate the digital world with their kids. It was originally posted on their Good Digital Parenting blog and republished here with permission.

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Durante años, la regla general sobre el cuidado de los niños en la era smartphone era mantener a los niños menores de 2 lejos de las pantallas. Phones, tablets, laptops-shield your baby from the glow. But, as technology has become more ingrained in everyday life, research and parenting are evolving along with it. El año pasado, la Academia Americana de Pediatría (AAP, por sus siglas en inglés), actualizó sus pautas, disminuyendo las restricciones del uso de pantallas en los más chicos. 

“It doesn't do anybody any good to just be told what not to do,” Chip Donohue, director of the Technology in Early Childhood Center at the Erikson Institute, says. "Nadie dice que se prohíban las pantallas. Hoy en día es imposible hacer eso".

FaceTime with grandma

There was a time when parents would have done anything to keep screens away from their babies. But practices—and even recommendations—on the topic are changing. In late 2016, the AAP tweaked their long-held recommendation that parents keep children under the age of 2 away from screens.

La AAP es la principal fuente de información y punto de referencia sobre el cuidado de los niños. "Su contenido se basa en la evidencia", continúa Donohue. "Si no tienen la evidencia, no lo van a divulgar".

The AAP still recommends that children and babies under 18 months “avoid use of screen media other than video-chatting.” Y este repentino cambio sobre los video chat encaja perfectamente sobre lo que algunas encuestas señalan: el "FaceTime (o video llamadas) no cuenta". Families, surveys found, don’t consider video chat screen time.

And experts agree. There’s been some research, Donohue says, that shows that in a socially contingent interaction—say, your 16-month-old baby video chatting with her grandma on your smartphone—toddlers can learn language. "Lo que es un gran descubrimiento porque tenemos 25 años de investigación que sugieren que las pantallas no le enseñan idioma a los niños pequeños", dice Donohue. "Fue un gran avance porque sugiere que la pantalla sería solo un mediador. Que no es una solo una experiencia virtual. It's not passive—it's grandma. Y el idioma se aprende en un contexto familiar, desde alguien a quien amamos".

Activities that strengthen a baby’s language skills with video chat from the study:

• Mirror the baby’s behavior by clapping or waving.
• Respond in real time to the baby’s words or gestures rather than sending a recorded video saying hello.
• Read a bedtime story.

When it’s part of the conversation—not the focus

Screen use can become problematic when it turns into a habitually passive exercise-plopping a tablet in front of your child to keep them quiet and leaving the room; turning on a mindless app. This is not a new phenomenon. But, if you're intentional about your use of screen time, it can be a net positive for your child.

"Vemos que muchos padres están usando la tecnología hoy en día tal como lo hicieron con la televisión en los años 60 y 70, y antes de eso, con la radio", establece el Dr. John Grohol, psicólogo y fundador de PsychCentral. "Los padres han utilizado la tecnología para poder mantener calmo a los niños por más tiempo".

Pero el uso de pantallas, como del televisor, puede funcionar tanto como una herramienta de aprendizaje como para fomentar el lazo familiar. Donohue is a self-professed sports nut, and his daughter became one because she embraced it from a very young age. But, he didn't just sit her next to him on the couch and yell at the umpire while his toddler stared into space.

"Había conversación, había una explicación sobre lo que estaba sucediendo y había exaltación cuando mi equipo lo hacía bien", explica. "Se convirtió en una interacción más social. It wasn't just sit quietly and stare at the screen. And I think that's the number one thing for parents to understand. We have all this new media, all this digital media that is, in fact, highly interactive. ¿Cómo la usamos bien?"

Los expertos coinciden: la respuesta es la intención. Se prudente, interactúa con tu hijo, ya sea que haga una video llamada o FaceTime con un tío o un juego educativo en una tablet. "If we're clear with kids about, 'Hey, we're going to play the game for a few more minutes and then we're going to turn it off and we're going to play a game together,'" Donohue says, "that's a different-and more positive-experience."

Acerca de ese email laboral...

Los niños son influenciables. Esto se aplica a la tecnología como a los modales. Según Donohue, el uso y comportamiento de los medios por parte de los adultos es una parte igual de la ecuación: "Estoy más preocupado sobre cómo usan los medios los padres más que los niños. Cómo un adulto usa los medios frente a su hijo pequeño, es lo que da la pauta de cómo los niños lo usarán".

Eso no significa que tu niño de 16 meses agarrará tu teléfono y empezará a enviar emails laborales. But behavior is learned, and technology can disrupt parenting.

"Se trata mucho más acerca de lo que el padre hace en vez de lo que dice", dice el Dr. Michael Rich, director del Center on Media and Child Health de la Universidad de Harvard. "Porque básicamente, eso les enseñará a deliberar y concientizar sobre su uso de los medios en el futuro".

The child may still be young, but even under the age of 2, they are observant.

"So if the parent is obsessed with the screen-if the parent can't stop looking at the text messages as they come in or interrupts a playtime with their child to go check their email," Donohue continues, "then that's more problematic to me, because that's getting in the way of the relationship. In other words, because I don't put my screen down and I don't put my phone away, even when I'm playing blocks or doing art with my kids, the potential for an interruption is so high.”

Occasional use is not dependency

La crianza de los hijos no es fácil. Es probablemente caótico. Y el uso pasivo ocasional de una tablet, es una consecuencia de hacer malabares con la crianza en un itinerario agitado. But, the key is that it’s very occasional. No debe ser algo cotidiano.

"Aquí la clave es comprender que todo lo que sea de uso ocasional no va a dañar a tu hijo de ningún modo", dice Grohol. “So, if you occasionally need to sit an infant in front of a tablet to watch a video or something, there’s no evidence that that would result in any problems with the child.”

Donohue incluso bromea. "I think we also have to give adults a bit of a break here," he says with a laugh. "Todos crecimos con la televisión, probablemente todos miremos mucha televisión, y probablemente hayamos visto mucha televisión de manera pasiva. We survived-we did OK."

Remember: Every family—and every child—is unique

"Cada niño es diferente", dice el Dr. Rich. "And every child's needs or the demands on them in their life are different."

Los padres deberían tratar las investigaciones y anécdotas como guía. Tomar todo "con pinzas". There are times for screens and there are times for no screens-it's up to parents to decide what's best for their family and each individual child.

"Creo que los padres necesitan ayuda realmente acerca de cómo tomar sus propias decisiones, que sean honestas y auténticas para su propia familia", dice Donohue. "But these are guidelines, and they're important to pay attention to and they're smart people thinking hard about these issues, but they don't live inside the walls of your house or apartment; they didn't give birth to your kids."

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Today's digital parents are learning to walk a tricky line: give their teens privacy and freedom to express themselves while also protecting them from the potential dangers of the internet. Many parents feel it's important to monitor or limit their child's internet behavior-from browsing to social media-until they reach a certain level of maturity or media literacy. In 2018, 58% of parents in a Pew Research Center survey said they looked through a teen’s calls or text messages. That’s up from 48% percent in 2016.

With devices so prevalent in teens’ everyday lives, researchers have identified new ways to keep teenagers safe while preserving room to explore and learn.

Not everything happens on Facebook

The potential for unmonitored and unlimited interactions can make it difficult for parents to screen what their teens see. Even if parents take steps to limit their child's browsing capabilities, inappropriate apps and websites can still be accessed with a friend.

But, understanding the nuances and potential dangers of popular apps and platforms can help build a sensible monitoring strategy. Service provider or third-party tracking programs and apps, such as WebWatcher, allow parents to monitor and catalog what teens are viewing.

And while Instagram, Facebook and Twitter are everywhere, it’s important that parents have some familiarity with the other apps teens are using. Common Sense Media flags GroupMe, Kik Messenger and WhatsApp as other potentially dangerous online spaces because they allow teens to hide conversations and talk to older teens or users over the age of 16. The lesson? Media literacy is as important for parents as it is for teens.

"Parents can micromanage their child’s accounts and internet usage, but that may set up an environment of resistance and distrust."  

- Raychelle Lohmann author of The Bullying Workbook for Teens

Neary six in ten parents (58%) monitor their teen’s web behavior or look through their phones, according to the Pew Research Center. But only 52% of parents use parental controls to restrict access.

Monitoring a teen’s online life may give parents peace of mind, but it is by no means a silver bullet. Research from Dr. Gustavo Mesch, a professor of sociology and the rector of the University of Haifa and a specialist in teen interactions with the internet, suggests that parents who tightly monitor their children in an attempt to minimize unsafe online behavior may actually achieve the opposite effect. His study found this lack of freedom can drive teens to hide risky behaviors.

Dr. Mesch asked parents to try three different strategies for monitoring browsing habits: supervision, guidance and nonintervention (i.e., taking a hands-off approach). When surveyed parents actively and judiciously monitored browsing behavior and put stringent restrictions in place, teens were more likely to "engage in risky online behavior."  

Teens know the loopholes

“Many teens are more tech savvy than their parents,” says Raychelle Lohmann, a counselor focused on teen behavior and cyber habits, and author of “The Bullying Workbook for Teens.” Some of the tools at teens’ disposal, which parents may not fully grasp, are “online privacy settings, disabling cookies [and] clearing browsing history,” Lohmann says. Teens generally can find a way to access the content they want, and the more pressure parents put on them, the more likely they are to try and hide their behavior.

“Parents can micromanage their child’s accounts and internet usage, but that may set up an environment of resistance and distrust,” Lohmann says.

The breakneck pace of technology also can put savvy teens one step ahead of monitoring apps. Lohmann notes that teens can set up "smoke screens" or install apps designed to hide objectionable behaviors from parents.

Some parents may feel it's best to limit which devices their teens can use or only allow access when they reach a certain age. Lohmann suggests using age as a milestone for when parents can remove the digital training wheels, unless the parent suspects an older teen of "engaging in harmful behavior." Though there are no hard and fast rules or maturity milestones, Lohmann recommends common sense-and common decency. "Monitoring a 13-year-old would look different from monitoring a 17-year-old," she says.

Bridging the gap between safety and freedom

Aside from checking browser history, parents can set up a fair system for how teens use their devices and how to best monitor their behavior while maintaining a sense of freedom. Lohmann suggests putting it in writing.

Think of it this way: It's all about training a teen to navigate the internet safely, smartly and with a certain level of skepticism. Every teen is unique and requires a different approach. There is no perfect or exact age to set a teen free. Rather, it's about gradually granting more freedom as it is earned.

“Just as parents wouldn’t toss their teens the keys to the car without any background knowledge of how to operate the vehicle,” Lohmann says, “they shouldn’t toss them a device without any knowledge about how to properly use it.”

"An acceptable electronic usage contract is a great way to document expectations," she says. "Parents need to establish clear expectations, set the rules and stick to them." 

As your teen matures and gains a higher level of media literacy, they should be granted access to new sites, apps and responsibilities. It should be gradual, and it will differ for each teen. "I believe in treating teens with respect," Lohmann says.

And a word of encouragement: You're doing a good job at helping your teens stay safe. Roughly six in ten teens (59%) say parents are doing an excellent or good job at addressing cyberbullying, according to the Pew Research Center survey.

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It’s not that Ashley Parson doesn’t trust her 16-year-old son—she does.

When she installed a Verizon Hum tracking device on the car he’s driving, she was simply taking a precaution.“I don’t even think he thinks about it, honestly,” Parson says about the tracking device.

From her phone, she can check her son's safety score based on the number of times he takes a sharp turn, drives fast, brakes hard or hits the accelerator. Right now, Michael has a good safety score: 80 out of 100.

“It just lets me know his safety habits and where he is,” she says.

This proactive approach to parenting in our increasingly tech-engaged lives is encouraging-especially when compared to the data. Many parents think they have it covered. According to Magid's annual Mobile Lifestyle Study, only 20% of adults ages 18-74 with children in their household are “very concerned” with the amount of time children spend using a smartphone. This is considerably less than the 36% of adults without children who are “very concerned” about the amount of time children in society spend using a smartphone.

This "more concerned about the other guy" mindset is worrisome, and when it's applied to young drivers, it could be dangerous. According to the Center for Disease Control, motor vehicle accidents are the number one cause of death for American teens. National Teen Driver Safety Week, October 20-26, 2019, is now celebrating its 12th year, originally initiated to raise awareness of this sobering statistic and to prevent teen automobile fatalities.

But there are a few tech tweaks you can make to minimize your teen’s distracted driving with a phone—and help you keep your own eyes on the road, too.

1. Enable auto replies to texts while driving
Texting while driving is a widely recognized smartphone distraction and parental concern, but your phone has settings to block texts while driving. To change settings on your specific device, search for instructions related to "auto reply," "driving mode" or "do not disturb" and your device name.

2. Employ safe driving features in Hum by Verizon
Connected car technology advancements include practical tools that help create responsible drivers. Hum by Verizon is one easy-to-install app example. Going beyond the basics, Hum offers a variety of innovations to make your teen's driving experience safer. In addition to rescue features such as roadside assistance and crash detection, Hum features a personal Safety Score that assesses your teen's driving behaviors and calculates factors such as speeding, hard braking and sharp cornering.

3. Introduce your kids to safe driving content
Viral content and videos about teen driver safety on Buzzfeed, YouTube, Vice or other sites familiar to your teen can help create a memorable image as well as legitimize in their eyes the severity of the issue. Sharing safe driving content with your teen is a great way to grasp their attention and instill safe driving behavior.

4. Weave tech distraction into your driving instructions:
Getting behind the wheel those first few times is often stressful for teens. Taking the time to recognize and address tech distractions during these initial driving experiences-especially when you are providing instruction to your kids-can have a lasting effect on fledgling drivers. Turning off the phone or engaging safe driving settings during driving instruction could establish safe driving habits for life.

5. Model good driving habits for your kids
Lessons help, but demonstrations of healthy driving habits truly establish a foundation. If you don't use your phone while driving, your kids will absorb this-it's that simple.

Parents are the best role models of healthy tech usage and teen driver safety, so to ensure our children are informed, responsible drivers, share the knowledge and strategies to help them resist the urge to text or engage with their phones while driving. It is our hope that these tactics will establish lifelong-and life-protecting-smartphone behavior.

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